I've broken so many of my own rules being with this man.
I've always said you gotta be 6'0 to ride this ride. Well he's 5'11 but I guess it makes no difference since I'm barely 5'3 but not quite lol
I usually don't date men with multiple baby mamas. I don't bring any drama in that area so I don't want to deal with drama in that area. Since my divorce every man I've dated, except 1 had no kids at all. Ira came with 2 kids, who I absolutely love. 2 babymamas tho. 3 if you count me and my daughter now.
Last but not least I said I wouldn't date another Pisces. I'm a Virgo and that combination is like oil and water. Pisces men are the devil. Beyoncé said it so it's bible. Check out "Signs" if you don't believe me lol
Yeah my deal breakers are pretty petty so I'm gonna spare the details of how I let it slide that he squeezes my toothpaste in the middle and bought toilet paper that was only 1ply.
My last relationship before him taught me a lot about what should and what shouldn't be deal breakers. I've decided as long as a man ain't married you can let certain shit slide.
Yes I dated a married man. It's not something I'm proud of but I can't change it.
He introduced me to his parents, most of his family and his friends as his girlfriend. I wasn't hidden nor a secret. Shortly after we were seriously dating he revealed to me he was married but separated. I learned the very hard way that being separated is still married. Matter of fact once he puts a ring on his finger anything other than divorced is married. We live in a time where it's acceptable to date and sleep with married men. Reality tv glorifies it even. What is so great about borrowing someone else's husband??? His wife eventually found out about me and wanted her marriage back. She did exactly what most women do in the situation cause she's stupid. She confronted me! I was all set to fight for what was mine, but for one small thing. He wasn't mine. Since he's married he was not free to date me or be mine so I did the right thing. I cut his ass loose!!
That situation taught me my list of qualifications always get me absolutely nowhere cause he fit all the criteria on my list. I decided I was gonna stop being so picky.
I've known Ira since high school. He was a senior when I was a freshman and I had the biggest crush on him. Then one day when I was 17 he was driving in my neighborhood and he followed me home. We actually dated for like 2 months before he went into the army. This last time we reconnected I actually almost stuck him in the friendzone because he had a ringback tone on his phone and I thought that was lame. I'm so glad I didn't.
Letting go of my list has allowed me to build something real and experience a deeper bond than I've ever had with anyone in my life. Women are always complaining there are no good men left but there are plenty. Look in your friendzone. If he has good hygiene, a job and isn't married there is potential there lol
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